My husband rejected my offer of second wife despite 24 years childlessness – Mother of twins

 

Fifty-eight-year-old Pastor Funmilola Abraham, Regional Overseer at the Mountain of Fire and Miracles Ministries, speaks to GRACE EDEMA about how she conceived and was delivered of twins after waiting for 24 years

When did you get married?

I got married on March 31, 2001. It has been 24 years since then, and I was 57 years old when I gave birth to my children. I am 58 years old now.

In 2002, I had surgery to remove fibroids. The doctor assured me that everything looked fine. My husband also went for medical checks, and everything was perfect. But since then, we’ve had no comfort; we kept moving from one hospWhat action did you take after the disappointment?

Later, I tried another round of IVF, but it didn’t succeed. At that point, I just looked up to God and said, ‘Lord, I’ve done everything humanly possible, but nothing has worked.’

So, I put my full trust in God and focused entirely on my ministry. From the beginning, I never backed down from my calling. I continued doing what God asked me to do.

I forgot about myself and the problem. But as a woman, my mind still went there from time to time. Whenever it did, I would cry—sometimes openly, sometimes silently. Often, I would just sit quietly and stare into space.

I’ve never seen it written anywhere in the Bible that a woman must have children to enter heaven. That truth comforts me. If I can still make heaven without children, then it’s okay. That’s what gives me peace now—I no longer look back.

All I pray for now is that in my old age, God will take care of me. That’s my constant prayer: ‘Lord, just take care of me.’

Some people often assume that when an older woman gives birth, it must have been through IVF and then tag it as a miracle. What is your response to this?When we talk about IVF, we must first acknowledge that it was God who gave people the knowledge to develop such a process. Yes, God gave scientists the wisdom to put things together and come up with IVF.

Now, in the case of a woman of advanced age like me, if she goes for IVF, the doctors will usually say her eggs are no longer viable. The eggs are weak and may not be able to produce a healthy child, and because of that, they often recommend using the egg of a younger woman.

They will then combine that younger egg with the husband’s sperm. After fertilization, they implant the embryo into the older woman’s womb.

So, when we look at it, some may say, ‘Oh, that’s not natural.’ But in reality, it’s still a better option than remaining without a child at all. At least your husband’s bloodline is still involved, and in some cases, the woman’s body carries and nurtures the baby.

Even in that process, it is still God who helps because IVF is not easy. I’ve gone through it, so I know. It’s not just about the money—it costs a lot physically, emotionally, and spiritually. You have to take drugs, inject yourself, and go through procedures. It’s a serious journey.

During my IVF process, I wasn’t the only one. Many of us tried, but not all of us carried our babies. Some people even died along the way. So, for anyone to come out of it with a testimony, it is only God who made it possible.

When someone says, “It is God who did it,” even if they went through IVF, they are not wrong because without God, that process cannot succeed.